Emotional rejection is really hard to be comprehended with or even to be accepted by humans. When intense feelings are created, it is inevitable to invest emotionally to a relationship we are into, just like it is inevitable to not being able to realize when someone can reject us and not wanting to be with us anymore. The feelings that are created later on are mixed, and a lot of times we go through phases until we accept them. In my opinion, the notion of the situation appears later on, and I believe that we do not stop hoping for a possible return of the one who rejected us.
Nonetheless, we are not usually in a position to accept any advice we get from our inner circle, believing that those people are irrelevant with the situation that we are experiencing, and according to our way of thinking, just because of that, it makes them unable to have any kind of opinion on the matter. From our perspective, it seems as if they misunderstood the situation. The fact that they do not know them as well as we do, making them create a false idea, is one of the excuses that we think in order to explain their behavior.
But why do we tend to not accept rejection and go back to the person that ostensibly is uninterested in us? Perhaps because from a young age we learn that we need to be accepted by our social environment. Creating a relationship with someone and developing feelings for them, seems to be hard for us to accept that we might not be as “liked” and eventually our feelings fall through.
Therefore, when we are dealing with such an intensely emotional situation, to blame ourselves, accusing it as being inadequate, is a mistake and it surely does not help towards our personal development. I completely understand that rejection hurts, and makes us introduce a different version of ourselves, a more vulnerable one from the one that we used to express. What we can do is to accept the fact that there are and will be people who won’t like us and will reject us several times.It’s up to us to not let them affect our lives.
Written by Eirini Konstantopoulou, for Truth Inside Of You
Religious beliefs about being either accepted or rejected by the ‘creator’ with eternal punishment for the wayward has created an exaggerated fear of rejection
because most r insecure or they would not care
Look around you, I don’t think people are afraid of being rejected by ‘the creator’. I think they crave the attention of other people because they lack the confidence and love for themselves while ‘the creator’ loves you no matter what because you are it’s creation and it constantly gives you chances to turn your face towards it. But for some reason people go their whole lives worrying about what others think and only on their death bed they realize ‘why did I care? They did no create me’ and by then of course you would fear rejection from the creator because you think that you’ve done too much ‘bad’ to make up for, but this is again lacking self love and acceptance and by doing that you are again disputing with the will of ‘the creator’.