Everyone strives to be a great person, kind, caring, and compassionate. But for some people, that’s not always the case. There are many behaviors or ‘bad habits’ that people have that make them seem unattractive, annoying or someone that no one wants to be around with. A few of these harmful characteristics are offered for you below, and if you happen to realize that you embody any of them – quit! You might find your circle of friends grows once you do.
1. You are Self-Absorbed
Many people do this without realizing it. You focus solely on yourself, talk only about yourself, and often don’t care what others around you have to say. You think you’re the only one who matters. If this is you, it’s time to change. No one wants to be a friend with someone who only cares about themselves.
2. You Focus on Outer Beauty, Ignoring What’s Inside
Surprisingly, true beauty comes from within your heart, body, and soul. Your physical appearance isn’t what should matter, but people with unattractive behaviors think that outer beauty is all that matters. Take a look in the mirror – deep within yourself – and you might see what lies beneath. An ugly person. Unless you change your way of thinking.
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3. You are Always in Competition
Are you the person who has to be better than everyone else, see more, do more? If so, you’re an unattractive person. You should be more caring towards your friends, and let them have their moment. If they overcame their fear of heights and climbed 10 feet in the air, don’t say, “That’s all? I’ve climbed 30 feet!” Instead say, “Wow! That’s awesome. I’m really proud of you.”
4. You View Your Friends as Enemies
People who are seen as unattractive are often in fights with their friends. Instead of banning together and truly being able to care for others, you’re always turning your back, and stabbing them in theirs. Your friends are not your enemies. They are your allies.
5. You Question Your Importance to Others
You are definitely an unattractive person when you constantly question why others don’t see you as important as you think they should. For instance, your two friends went somewhere without you – it doesn’t matter to them – but to you it does. Get over it. They’re still your friend, and their lives don’t stop when you’re not around.
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6. You are the Boss
In a group of friends, everyone should be on an equal playing field. If you’re the one always making the decisions, constantly needing to be in charge, or trying to control what others are doing, you’re acting in an unattractive way.
7. You are Dishonest
When it comes to being a great friend, or someone who others want to be around, you need to be honest. Many people who partake in ugly behaviors are often dishonest, lying about everything, inquiring about every question asked about them, and how they truly feel about different things. Yes, honesty is the best policy.
8. You are Rude
If you’re the person that’s frequently impolite, offensive, or embarrassing your friends with your rude comments in public – quit. You’re not someone people want to be around. There are going to be times when you don’t agree with someone, or see something you didn’t want to see, but there’s no point in making a scene because you’re making everyone look at your terrible behavior and they’re not seeing what you’re seeing.
9. You are Unreliable, Yet Dependent Upon Others
Are you there when your friends call for help? Or are you always busy when someone needs you? If you’re the person no one can count on, that’s an unattractive quality in friendships. Similarly, if you’re the one always calling for help from others, yet never offering yours when they need it, that’s another unattractive quality that no one wants in a friend.
10. You are Always Negative
Pessimism is not an attractive quality. If you’re constantly putting things down or seeing situations in a negative light, try and change your attitude. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who’s constantly seeing the negative instead of the positive.
by Sebastian Eguez, for lifehack.org
Anushree Joshi read this
Damn.
So so true
This is ridiculous. Anyone w more than two of these traits is unaware and not capable of being a friend. Who would accept such a “friend”?
It’s simple : be yourself. Be authentic.
Such traits are Psychiatrically and Psychologically treatable.
Competition isn’t always a bad thing, it can be used to motivate others. Like the example given, they overcome they fear of heights by 10ft. You could take the “I did 30ft” as a way to motivate them to go higher, to fight their fear and push themselves that bit further. The Pessimism one isn’t as simple as being positive or negative. I myself have a lot of what could be considered pessimistic views, beliefs and opinions, but I also have a lot of optimistic hopes, beliefs and views. Negativity/Postivity is subjective, someone will see love as a negative but will see friendships as a positive. What is negative to one person will be positive to another. I would rather share my negative aspects as well as my positive aspects, otherwise I am being dishonest, and according to the article is unattractive, I agree.
But again, Attractive is subjective to individuals. I believe to an extent we all see outer beauty before inner beauty. But again, beauty is subjective. I will openly admit it might be a pretty face and nice figure that attracts me, but if the personality doesn’t match the looks then nah. There is no such thing as Black or White (Positive or Negative) in this world, we have flaws and that is what makes us. Someone will be attracted to your flaws, and love you for it.
Competition on any level is a negative. One can be motivated from the caring of and for others. Sharing and working together is the most efficient way to advance in anything. <3
Competition on any level is a negative. One can be motivated by the caring of and for others.
Sharing and working together is the most efficient way to advance in anything. <3
Why do you need to attract people in the very first place? Be yourself and be true to youyself. You do not have to change just to please others or just to appear attractive.
Striving for excellence is much more viable than competition. If people could be motivated to become the best of what they are capable of being, competition would be obsolete.