At a certain point or other we’ve all come across sociopaths who take control of our lives. These are people who appear to be sweet and naïve otherwise but are largely manipulative and cunning. And they could be anyone, from our friends and family members to our colleagues. They are people we’re closely associated with our everyday life and they will try to make you doubt yourself.
Amongst the people we’re surrounded with, the worst ones are narcissistic schemers. They have a toxic effect on us that gradually makes us feel less favorable about ourselves. They only care about their desires and needs. No matter what, narcissists will create a situation where their aims and requirements are placed above everyone else’s.
Since their need to fulfill their desires is so intense, nothing can ever come in its way. They manipulate situations to be in power, even if it means emotionally exploiting their close ones.
Below are 6 common phrases used by sociopaths and narcissists to manipulate people:
1. You’re ________.
You’re: “jealous”, “silly”, “foolish”, “crazy”, “over-sensitive” and so on. Narcissists and sociopaths love to frame people within these identities. By name-calling others, they try to justify their own position of misbehavior.
2. You’re misunderstanding me.
“Gaslighting” is a common method sociopaths and narcissists use to generate a reaction from you. The moment a reaction arrives, they blame you for misunderstanding them. They confuse you to the point that you’re not sure of your own reactions.
3. Don’t be overly sensitive.
Sociopaths know how to instill reactions from you and then blame you for your sensitive nature. They’ll push you to the point where you’ll start questioning yourself wonder if you’re actually overreacting to the situation. You’ll be compelled to retort to their behavior and at the same time be asked to pull yourself together. “Be strong and toughen up”, they say.
Don’t be fooled by this phrase, it’s only their way to make you feel guilty for your genuine expression.
4. Don’t be so dramatic.
Each time a narcissist calls you dramatic they’re only defending themselves from the intensity of your expression. They cannot deal with the validation of your emotions and wish to remove you from it too. They intend to delude you with the thought that your natural emotions are all an unnecessary and uncalled for performance.
5. You’re over-analyzing everything.
Each time you sit down to really understand the situation and break it down for them, they’ll turn the tables at you for over analyzing things that don’t even exist. Sociopaths can make you feel paranoid about your own behavior. You cannot try to put sense into them because each time you do that, they’ll definitely prove you to be crazy and distrustful.
6. You’ll have no life without me.
The moment you understand their manipulative behavior, you’ll want to step away from them. However, you need to be wary of the way in which they’ll try to pull you back under their influence. They’ll either try to get hold of you by making you feel irrational or emotionally manipulate you into the staying with them.
Don’t let that happen to you. It requires a lot of strength, but once you find it in you, get it together and walk away from them.
