Anger is a very intense feeling that can really pull us out of ourselves. Sometimes we feel that this is due to others. Yet the anger relates only to ourselves and the way we think. No one else is responsible for our actions except us. The others do not make us angry, but we ourselves.
The other characteristic of anger is that it is a secondary emotion. That is, we will first feel wounded, crowded, wronged, and then we will show our anger. Maybe because all previous feelings are considered “weaknesses”.
This story will change your mood and help you handle your anger.
One day the Buddha walked into a village. A very angry and rude young man approached him and began to offend him.
“You have no right to teach the world! You’re as dumb as anybody! You are nothing more than a scammer! “
The Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead, he asked the young man:
“Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone and he does not get it, then who does the gift belong to?”
The young man, surprised by the strange question, replied to the Buddha:
“The gift would belong to me because I bought it”.
Buddha smiled and said, “Right. And that’s exactly the same as your anger.
When you get angry with me and I do not feel offended, the anger returns and stays back to you. You become unhappy, not me. All you have to do is to hurt yourself. “
The young man looked confused.
Buddha continued: “If you want to stop hurting yourself, you need to get rid of your anger and turn it into love. When you hate others, you become unhappy but when you love others, everyone is happy. “
