It’s not possible for us to understand immediately whether a man is emotionally abusive or not.
Here are 10 glaring signs to understand if he is emotionally abusive:
1. Disrespectful
Most emotionally abusive men will treat you like a princess initially. So, observe his attitude towards others. If he is rude or contemptuous of others, you must understand he’ll treat you the same in a few days.
2. Well-planned hard luck stories of the past
It’s a trait of men like him to tell you their carefully crafted hard luck stories. Most women respond with utmost sympathy, care, and affection, helping them identify their prey.
3. A victim at the hands of women
You’ll hear him tell stories about being mistreated and betrayed by women all his life. His anger and hatred for these women clearly indicate that he expects you do not have any demands and say whatsoever, and only devote your life to his wishes.
4. Few negative behaviors that need to be rectified
He’ll show awful habits like drug addiction, alcoholism, anger issues, mistreatment of women etc.
5. Possessive and Dominating
He exercises his control over your thoughts and actions. Don’t give excuses for his power-seeking attitude. The whole relationship moves on his terms, you hardly have any part in it.
6. The lead of the relationship
He is the main character of the relationship. Your role is to make him look good.
7. Anger Management issues
He gets angry over the slightest things and always makes sure the blame is on you. Even if he is in the wrong he’ll never apologize. He’ll never handle arguments like matured adults. Expect him to throw a major tantrum, yell out abuses and be extremely upset in general.
8. Not totally reliable
He won’t be taking your wishes and desires into consideration. He’ll always be too tired, too busy or get called into something important whenever you initiate some plans or ask him to do something.
9. No respect for boundaries
Since he is in control, he sets the pace of the relationship. He’ll be asking really private and personal questions pretty early in the relationship and get involved
in all spheres of your life.
10. You feel cautious around him
I’m pretty sure at least once you had felt that this man was not trustworthy. But you ignored your gut feeling.
It’s absolutely crucial to identify if your partner is emotionally abusive because they can cause extreme mental, emotional and physical distress in their victim’s lives.
