Being a parent is a lot more than just sponsoring your kids for their education, food, and shelter. It’s a lot about giving them a strong foundation and raising good humans. Of course, every person is responsible for their behavior but it cannot be denied that we learn a lot from our surroundings in our childhood.
A School Principal in Singapore Sent This Letter to the Parents Before the Exams.
People say that kids don’t learn what you tell them. They instead learn what they see you doing. Maybe this is why we call homes our first school. It sounds harsh, but the truth is, not all parents are good parents. Some of them are the reason for raising difficult adults.
Emotional abuse as a child
Now if you look around yourself, you might come across certain people in your life who are tough. Not physically. They are just emotionally tough people. They do have weird habits which push people away from them and they come across as mean. But the truth yet remains to be at the grass-roots level that nobody was born bad.
There is always a reason for being a certain way, for having a particular set of morals and mindset. There are certain traits which are found in every person who has experienced child abuse in their past, which has made them the person they are today. To find out what these traits are, continue reading.
Pent Up Anger:
People who have experienced emotional abuse in their childhood do not often succeed in finding a way to channelize negative emotions out of their body. This is why all the anger, fear and aggression come get bottled up within and flow out only when it becomes overwhelming.
Anxiety And Depression:
For someone who has grown in a negative atmosphere, it is only expected for them to be anxious and depressed adults. They feel so heavy and hollow all at once. Sometimes they even question the authenticity of love.
Crowd Pleaser:
For someone who has faced abuse as a child, validation plays a huge role. They like to make people feel fine even at the expense of their own emotions. They are afraid of others anger. Rather they are scared of being unpleasant around people and are scared of losing their company. Their hearts are emotionally weak because of how they were made to see the world in their growing age.
They Are Afraid To Stand Up For Themselves:
The main stage of confidence build up is childhood. How you make a child feel about themselves at a young age will determine how they think about themselves as adults. Emotional abuse sufferers are terrified of standing up for themselves because firstly, they avoid being a part of conflicts and secondly because they also fear taking actions.