Narcissists. You know the type of person they are, and the toxic behaviour that accompanies their scaly personality.
They are overtly egotistical, with a grandiose sense of self-importance. They have fantasies of endless success, expect special treatment, enjoy exploiting others, lack empathy, are jealous, and think of themselves as having unlimited brilliance. To say the least, they are arrogant.
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While many of these characteristics might seem like they would be be easy to spot in someone, you need to remember that narcissists are tricky individuals. They are capable of manipulating you into thinking they “aren’t like that.”
No one wants to fall victim to the manipulation of a narcissist. Since it would be useful to know who to avoid, I’ve put together a list of 5 things narcissists will never do to you.
1. They will never make you feel safe.
One of the narcissists main tactics is to make you think you need them. They do this by instilling a sense of insecurity within you, making you question yourself, your friends, your family, and your relationship. They feel powerful, and therefore more secure, by
being the force behind your doubt.
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2. They will never be direct.
Have you heard of “double-speak,” or “word salad?” It’s how a narcissist speaks when they are confronted. Instead of being direct and saying what they mean, a narcissist will use manipulation and deflection. Asking them anything regarding responsibility or fairness results in misdirection.
3. They will never listen.
No matter what you say, or how many times you say it, a narcissist will never listen. Oh sure, they hear your words. They can probably repeat them too. But they never listen to what you are saying. You know why? Because pretty much every conversation gets spun into something involving them. Start talking about how your car broke down this morning and suddenly, “Your car broke down? That’s nothing compared to my morning…”
4. They will never do something for free.
The idea of ‘pay it forward’ doesn’t sit well with a narcissist. That’s probably because they never do something without getting something even bigger in return. Unless you can directly benefit them, they aren’t going to be doing you any favours. Honestly, it’s safer that way. Making a deal with the devil only benefits the devil.
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5. They will never apologize.
Mostly because they are never wrong. A narcissist could tell you that chickens can fly better than eagles, and despite how absolutely wrong they are, they will never admit it or apologize. They never make mistakes, and if they do say sorry, it will simply be to silence you so they can move the subject on to something more beneficial- like themselves.
written by Raven Fon, via: theearthchild.co.za, h/t Lifehack, photo credits: wallpaperscraft.com
Annie Seymour
Oj… Tror visst jag vet av några som är så..
Sounds familiar.
Yesenia Reyes
Helen Burdiss
mais il n’a pas reusi. et ca me fait rire.
Spot on
I know someone..I mean somebody
SHARED!!! Validates what I had always thought was wrong with my family and which I never bought-into, even from my earliest ages. But I was still messed-up inside…I just found I COULD function well with others and, most importantly, feel empathy for those in such horrific Situations.
This is soooo true.
It is difficult to work for a boss who is one. Glad I left that job.
Good article. The part about my Birthday and Christmas is spot on.
SO SO TRUE…..!!!!!
Ben there and I agree: Oh so true !
And they won’t click this link!
Me demon? 😮
All people have a bit of narcissism in them.
It’s a matter of degree.
Uninformed article.
Norizan M Hashim
I was married to one for 17 years. OMG this is so true word by word. I can attached a scenario to each example given.
Spot on! I have a special name for them “Toppers”
probably why i beat both of mine. i never needed either of them. once the children were ok,, run like hell.
Ashley Lynn good read
Erin Ferreira
Anyone who is a narcissist themself or knows a narcissist should read this post written by a woman who’s dating a narcissist. It’s EVERYTHING. http://helpmebro.com/posts/FQYdUtcscv
Sow true.
25 years of this
Ugh
Makes me sick I wasted my life with him
I left and I’m happily remarried
The girls hate their dad for the way he was. We are all so glad we’re out of the manipulation.
Hmm interesting
Ha!